A lot of women have been asking me why men seem to always be attracted to the crazy lune women and they pass over the stable grounded more normal ones. I would have to agree that I see this quite often indeed. I hear it all the time. Last week I spoke to guy on the phone, he told me he really wants to hire me but he is in a pseudo relationship right now that he is trying to end. I asked him about it. He said that they have great sex but she’s crazy and he knows it but the crazier she acts the more addicted he gets. He knows that he can’t marry a crazy girl which is why he is interested in hiring a matchmaker but he is having trouble getting her out of his system.
So… why is it?
I think that crazy translates into a bigger “chase” and if we take it back to the cavemen days, men love to chase. I think men find that crazy women keep them all kilter make them always work to have them, make them wonder what’s happening and somehow present the ultimate challenge.
You might then ask, should all women act crazy to get a man?
My answer would have to be no and yes. First, of course my answer is no—eventually men get over wanting a truly crazy lunatic woman. When does that happen- when they have really been put thru the ringer by a nutty woman, one they married or one they dated. Most men will experience that one awful time and then they will finally say they are finished, they need someone more normal.
So, it’s good to be normal. However, it good to “throw some crazy in”, meaning….
Wear sexier underwear then you usually do, or don't wear any underwear at all!
Grab your guy at a party, pull him into the stairwell and do something naughty and unexpected to him,
Don’t always be available when he asks you for plans,
Be mysterious sometimes about where you are going,
Don’t always be the one to give in during a fight.
In this way, you are wife material but a little exciting as well- you need to let those guys chase a bit, after all they still have some monkey in them!!
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ReplyDeleteA woman came on to me as I was separating from my wife. Sex with her was in-cred-i-ble. We loved the same freaky things and wow! it was awesome. HOW-EV-ER: missy had an alcohol habit I didn't know about until I moved in with her "rent-free". Her occasioanl tirades, unpredictable behavior, inclination to hang-up on me, break-up with me, ignore me, interrupt me, stand me up and so forth, COULD have been a result of alcoholism. Or menopause. Or bipolar personality disorder. All I know is: I loved her more than life itself. And the sex. . . OMMFSOBBFAWDSG!!!!! That said, my tolerance of the verbal abuse and disrespect was eventually overtaken by the realisation that, if she DID in fact, LOVE me, she would NOT mistreat me, EVER! So on a Sunday morning at my place, when she threw a fit (typically over-reacting to something ridiculous) and told her dog "ok, we're going home now", I was not so much surprised as irked. After 14 months, I NOW had an opportunity to take control. As she scurried back & forth collecting her stuff so she could abruptly go home, early in a day for which we had made MANY plans, I seized the moment. I told her, "If you walk out on me today, please collect all of your stuff you normally leave here and take it with you. Also: give me my keys." She did. After all of her contrived "break-ups", SHE would ALWAYS call ME (ALWAYS ignoring her responsibility in the events) to re-establish contact. Now, that I took the initiative and instantly retaliated for her her insane walk-out routine. . . I have not heard from her. Me? I feel hurt, used, tattered, torn and abused. I doubt I will EVER meet anyone like her again. "If only she was sober & sane. . ." I NOW know there's nothing I could have done about her. She took a nice guy, satisfied her OWN needs and once I finally stood up, she evidently decided she needed nothing further. Crazy is as crazy does. Any woman that would give me her ear would probably sweep me off of my feet. I am SUCH a WUSS!
ReplyDeleteThis is a good post. I relate to pants with walk-out bullshit.
ReplyDeleteI do suggest you start using Firefox for your posts to weed out the grammatical errors. Not a good thing for a professional blog.
My Ex-Girlfriend is crazy too! But just like some of the other posts she was Great in bed and beautiful. She wasn't mean or abusive just, oblivious to how others feel and totally uncompassionate about how her actions would effect me. I caught her cheating on me and we were living together at the time and after I broke down and freaked out she told me I had to move out. Well I did and I found my own place. and tried to mend my heart. I really loved her and she was so good in bed. This was the first woman I had ever really fallen in love with.
ReplyDeleteShe then started coming over to my place and we soon began the relationship again. Later I kept finding notes and letters to other men. This drove me nuts I mean she would write letters to these guys and never send them. or I would find condoms under her car seat. She told me that she didn't really even feel bad about cheating on me. This was about 5 years ago. We've been broken up for about 2 years and last week she came over and told me that she wanted to get married. I flat out told her that I do not want her in my life at all and she stormed out. That felt good but I am still heart broken over it. I still love her even after all the crazy things she's done. Why do crazy women have such a magnetism
God DAMN! it's nice to know I'm not alone. All the break ups, the roller coaster of emotions. Heres a big one... My ex as of yesterday... lol asked me to for over a year to be more emotionally avaiable and verbal with my feelings. Now that I finally am I'm dramatic, need to grow up, and basically a big pussy. :( I used to get so upset with all the shit she would put me through. In her own sick way though she has made me stronger. Anymore I am pretty much numb to anything she does as I wouldn't put anything past her.
ReplyDeleteAre you guys F'ing kidding me?! Grow a pair already!
ReplyDeleteThere's a reason you have a phallus! To put it inside of every woman that you bed. Preferably, within every orifice that you can fit it in. By the looks of some of these comments, I believe that the women were wearing strap ons and dominating you guys. They were definitely mind and emotionally f'ing you.
Listen, stop subscribing to this "modern post feminist ideal" of the "nice guy". This is ultimately why the women acted crazy AND cheated on you. Do you really think they didn't know what they were doing? That it was related to substance abuse? They were acting crazy in order to instigate a masculine reaction out of you ... any reaction resembling manhood.
They cheated because some other dude with higher testosterone and probably a bigger rod was treating them like the sluts that they were. Yes, I used the word "slut"! Because having a vagina does not mean a woman is automatically worthy of being put on a pedestal.
Yeah, its ok to mess around with the psychotic sex queens but don't turn over your Y Chromosome or live in this facade of being a "gentle boy" to your own demise. The only thing that they want is to be dominated. This gives them a sense of security in their crazy topsy turvy world inside of their heads. They know how screwed up they are. So when you give in and take their crap they look at you and think that you must be really "cheap" because you take crap from a chick with such low self esteem.
1.) When they start acting like a crazy bitch, show them the door and replace them like yesterdays TMZ Starlet.
2.) Stop answering the phone every time they call - Your busy working I hope!
3.) Stop asking them if they "came" and what you can do!
4.) Stop tolerating any and I mean any idea conversation of another guy in the picture (one penis per fantasy and it better be yours) Including ex boyfriends. Tell her she should give him a call because she getting ready to be single again. She using you as a rebound if she continues.
5.) Stop talking about your GD feelings all the time! Do you think anyone really cares. She has her own emotional problems. The more you talk about your weaknesses, insecurities, etc you cheapen your brand
6.) Do every depraved sexual act with her that you can get her to do without her calling the police. You'll regret not doing it when she's gone.
7.) Have your own domicile - Stop this moving in crap and tell her to take her 5h1t with her when she leaves including the obligatory toothbrush!
I could say more but I'd have to write a book.
In summary, be a MAN and save the "nice" stuff for the WOMAN that actually deserves the nice guy treatment! The woman that is realistically going to be your wife. The one that you can respect and devote your entire life to.
Geez!